Have you ever been in a relationship where you don’t really address your relationship issues?
Today we’re going to talk about how to deal with this relationship problem.
When you’re not talking about problems in a relationship | Advice
So are you in a situation where you feel like you can’t really discuss the issues you might be having with your significant other?
I have been there.
I remember when I was dating this one guy and he could not stand when I would bring up something that was a problem.
He would do his best to avoid the topic by either disregarding how I felt by downplaying the issue, spinning the issue on me to make it seem like he was upset but he wasn’t, or he would just flat out act like he was mad and ignore me as a way to silence me or punish me for bringing a situation up.
To me.. I find that to be truly unfair and disrespectful because if you’re in a relationship.. the person you’re with should actually care about your feelings.
I am a firm believer of treat others the way you would like to be treated, but some people don’t handle things the same way and they have very much double standard one sided ways.
So what should you do when you aren’t talking about the issues?
Bring it up at a point where you know they aren’t busy.
Take sometime to sit down with them and put how you’re feeling on the table.
Share with them rationally the cause and reaction to how you’re feeling.
Share the actual moment something happened and how it made you feel.
Tell them what they could do better to resolve the issue so it won’t happen again.
Example: If you saw them flirting with someone and it upset you, share with them how it made you feel and share with them how not flirting would make you feel better.
If they don’t acknowledge how you feel or try to find a way to deflect…
I’d honestly say just break up with them.
You get what you allow at the end of the day.
This goes with anything in life.
If you allow someone to do something once, they’ll think it’s okay to do it again and again and again.
If they are doing something that you find to be disrespectful or unfair in a way where you know for a fact if you did it to them that they’d be upset with you…
I would just say let them go because clearly they don’t care about you or how you feel.
Don’t stay in a relationship where you feel like your opinion doesn’t matter and you’re left feeling upset as well as disregarded all the time where relationship problems are not being addressed.
So that’s my two cents on when you’re not talking about problems in a relationship.
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