5 Things I Realized Watching The Tinder Swindler | Dating App Scams

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One of my favorite Youtubers OhStephCo released a new video and in the title I realized she was talking about the Netflix documentary The Tinder Swindler.

So I decided to watch it to see what it was about and after watching it… I’m extremely annoyed for a couple reasons.

Today I’m going to talk to you about The Tinder Swindler and things I realized within watching the documentary.

5 Things I Realized Watching The Tinder Swindler | Dating App Scams

If you’re a person who uses dating apps then you know that not everything is what it seems and that you do have to be careful when it comes to meeting new people.

In the Tinder Swindler the documentary follows a couple different women and how they met a scammer via a dating app.

I highly recommend watching it just for awareness purposes and if you’re interested in the topic of finding love, but being lied to.

But anyway… right now I’m going to spoil the documentary so please watch it first and then read what I’m about to say..

Did you watch it?


So first thing, I always find it bewildering that people, especially women can go on a trip or travel with someone that they absolutely don’t know.

Maybe the concept of stranger danger may have not been taught, but it’s scary to me to think of how women everyday will just go on these flights after meeting someone for the first time…

And sometimes these women end up missing, dead, or they end up being scammed in some sort of way.

It’s important to be safe and to make sure you get to know someone for at least a couple months before you just leave town with them.

To be honest, I’d say get to know someone for a year or two before you leave the state… but I’m paranoid.

I’ve seen too many crime shows and Dateline episodes.

2nd… Never give someone who isn’t long term or.. your husband a substatial amount of money.

I’m not going to lie… I’ve been in one situation where I gave a dude I was dating over $200 because he needed some money which I shouldn’t have and like in the Tinder Swindler…

The dude became aggressive when he wanted me to give him the money as if it was meant for him or I was obligated to do so… like he was entitled.

Now $200 doesn’t seem like a lot when I compare it to the different people who ended up being swindled out of thousands of dollars, but it’s still a lot of money.

Never give a guy who you barely know money.

It doesn’t matter if he wined and dined you for a couple weeks… it doesn’t matter.

3rd.. If a person says they have enemies, it’s probably best that you leave them alone.

So I think the thing that was baffling to me about these situations was how the swindler kept saying he had enemies and he couldn’t have a paper trail with his own account.

Like think about this… why would you want to be with someone who has enemies like that?

Enemies who are trying to physically harm them? Enemies who are tracking money?

I mean how would you feel if you two had kids and you had to worry about your kids being hurt?

It doesn’t sound safe at all.

Like yeah you may really like this person and even love this person, but at this day and age… you shouldn’t be putting yourself and your future child in harms way.


This is something that really went over my head because I would have instantly been like..

If you have all this money, why don’t you have a stash of cash somewhere?

Why don’t you have your family send you money? Or any friends?

You can’t go to the bank and take the money out yourself?

We’ve only known each other for a month or two and you want me to give you thousands of dollars?

You want me to take out loans to support your lifestyle and keep you safe?

A billionaire wouldn’t have to ask a woman… a woman they just met for money. It’s completely obsurd.

To me I would think either scammer or they don’t know how to manage their money which are both long term problems.

Lastly, the ending was super upsetting!

It was soo wild to me that all of these women were stuck in debt that may never pay off while the guy who did all of these things went to jail for awhile and got out.

The guy is living his best life, has a beautiful girlfriend, and he’s probably back scamming people.

It’s really just bewildering that he basically was an awful person, but he didn’t really have any long term effects apart from not being able to join certain online dating sites.

However the woman he scammed are in a lot of debt which could affect their possibilities of getting a car, home, apartment, or even a job.

I mean I guess he doesn’t get into trouble more mainly because it’s not much of a paper trail connected to him, but still…

With all of the different people that he’s scammed and the fact that he’s scammed over 10 million… it’s just wild that he didn’t get at least 30 years in jail.

Some women just wanted love or just a simple friendship… and they were scammed.

I just felt so hurt for them.

But overall… all this made me think was you definitely have to look for red flags.

Something too good to be true.. just might be.

A person who is rich honestly won’t ask you for a substantial amount of money.

You probably should take time to get to know someone before you get on a flight or sleep with them.

Always have a papertrail for any transactions.

Never date someone who could potentially put you or your family in danger where they have “enemies.”

Never take a loan out for someone else.

If someone pressures you into giving them money, leave them alone. They’re using you.

Don’t focus on the idea of love to the point where you don’t use logical reasoning.

Lastly, always think long term and about how life might be with someone including pros and the cons…

Are they good with money? Do you feel safe with them? Do you have to worry about other people? Do they bring their work home?

So those are my feelings on the Tinder Swindler.

Also watch StephCo’s video below on her thoughts about it and using dating apps.

Let me know what you guys think by leaving a comment down below!

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