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There have been quite a few times when I dated someone that I was really interested in only for them to drag their feet about becoming serious about me.
For example I could date someone for 3+ months, but they didn’t want to claim the fact that we were in a relationship.
Or I recall even being into someone who didn’t plan dates or the most they did to pursue me was text me, but I initiated all of the places we went to.
Today we’re going to talk about how if a guy wants you, he’ll be with you and make it happen.
If a man wants you, he will make it happen | The Truth about Dating – Advice
The experience of dating is a hassle.
Let’s just be honest, it’s an issue trying to find someone that has similar values or relationship goals to you.
Then it can be absolutely mind boggling how someone can say they’re interested in you yet they don’t put the effort into trying to make it work with you.
It’s unfortunate, but a lot of people are lazy when it comes to dating.
They don’t really try or they think trying is simply messaging someone and saying ‘Good Morning’ yet they won’t show interest involved within making ACTUAL plans.
Some men will just create friends with benefits situations.
So one thing I feel like a lot of people don’t realize is that they do end up in situationship relationships,but it’s pretty much similar to friends with benefits.
You two aren’t exclusive but you are doing relationship things.
Then when you try to talk about it, they’re pretty much like,
“Why can’t we just keep doing what we’re doing now?”
And a lot of women end up settling for that treatment which isn’t right.
If you want a relationship then speak on it and say that.
If they don’t want anything serious, then let it go.
Don’t try to linger, settle, and wait for the person to change their mind.
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The man who wants you will show you they want you.
It’ll be easy to see if someone really wants you because they’ll actually pursue you as well as just put a label on it.
Don’t get me wrong, you can bring up things you enjoy or like initially just to put what you would like or want on the table, but it’ll be completely in your face that you are exclusive as well as serious about each other.
There will be no wondering or guessing. It just will be.
The man will setup plans and make dates.
They will get to know you to see what things you like and even incorporate those things into dates and plans.
It won’t be a hassle. It’ll just be simple.
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Books Related to Dating You Should Read
Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He’ll Change
Mr. Unavailable and the Fallback Girl: The Definitive Guide to Understanding Emotionally Unavailable Men and the Women that Love Them
He’s Not That Interested, He’s Just Passing Time: 40 Unmistakable Behaviors of Men Who Avoid Commitment and Play Games with Women
Red Flags: How to know he’s playing games with you. How to spot a guy who’s never going to commit. How to force him to show his cards. (The Truth … of commitment and sudden loss of interest)
Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy Relationships
Either a man wants you or they don’t.
One thing I do have to say is that a lot of times we end up finding men that we really like and want.
We think that maybe we can change them or mold them where we can shape them into doing things we would like.. then when they don’t, we’re upset.
If a person shows you who they are either accept it or move on to the next person.
You can not make someone do something they don’t want to do.
You can not change a man unless they want to change.
I feel like a lot of women end up settling for guys who they really want, but they honestly aren’t the right guy for them especially if you share with them the things you like/enjoy.. but months go by without those things being included or without them just saying they want to be in a relationship with you exclusively.
You can’t force someone to want you. You can’t force someone to do the things you want them to do. Either they’ll do it or they won’t.
It sucks, but it’s better to just end things.
The situationship that you have with this person where you’re wasting time and holding out for change when you could have been meeting someone else that would actually do all the things you have dreamed of…
It’s no contest at all.
Don’t hope for change in someone who has showed you they aren’t about change at the end of the day.
If a man wants you, he’ll make it happen.
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So that’s my two cents on if a guy wants you, he’ll make it happen.
What are your thoughts about this topic?
Let me know in the comments down below!