So you’ve been with your boyfriend for awhile now, but you’ve noticed a change in him…
He doesn’t do things the way that he used to. He doesn’t give you love, attention, or affection the way that he used to.
What does it mean and what should you do when your boyfriend stops making an effort?
Today we’re going to talk about this topic.
When your boyfriend stops making an effort, what do you do? – Relationship Advice
Why did he stop making an effort?
He could be going through something in life.
Life can give us a lot to handle and a decent amount to take on. He could be dealing with the pressures of the world which is causing him to not put in effort into your relationship.
He may not know what he wants.
Sometimes a guy may come to the conclusion where he doesn’t even know what the conclusion is for his life.
He may not know what he wants to do, where he wants to be, or where he wants to go.
He may even not know if he wants to even have a relationship. It’s unfortunate, but it happens sometimes.
He could just be falling out of the honeymoon phase.
So initially a lot of people start the relationship off doing all of these different things and dishing out these somewhat big gestures.
A guy who started off giving you flowers, doesn’t do it as much a couple months in.
A guy who started off surprising you may not do it as much after time goes on.
The romance may start to decline because you’ve been together for awhile. It happens sometimes.
He maybe done with the relationship.
He honestly may want to end the relationship. This is a last resort because I feel like there would have been signs over the course of time that would show that he was over it and wanted to end it.
What do about it?
Communicate with him.
Ask him how he is doing. Show that you’re concerned about him. Ask him if he is happy in the relationship too.
Be open towards his response.
Take the time to really listen to him and hear what he has to say. He could just be going through the motions of life or it could be one of the other reasons I listed above. Regardless listen.
Tell him how you feel about it.
Tell him your concerns about how you feel about the relationship. Let him know what things you love that he did in the past that showed you he was putting in effort.
Let him know that those things made you feel good and special.
Allow him to get back into the swing of things.
Let him show you and pursue you. Allow him time to give you effort.
As for time frame to allow the transition back.. it really depends on the effort you want and the issue at hand.
If he’s dealing with life issues, I’d say be understanding and give it a few months.
If he doesn’t know what he wants, I feel like this depends on your age.
If you’re a teen or young adult, give it a few weeks.
If you’re a grown adult in your late 20s or above, I honestly don’t know… especially if you want to have a serious relationship with someone and depending on how much time you invested in them (if it’s less than like 5 months).. I’d probably just let the relationship go.
If he just fell out of the honeymoon phase, spice it up. Pursue him too. Both of you guys can put effort into each other. I feel like you could do that within the week.
If he is done with the relationship, it’ll be hard but it’d be best to just let it go and move on. Don’t try to make something work with someone who acknowledges they don’t want the relationship.
So that’s my two cents on when your boyfriend stops making an effort.
Let me know what you guys would do in the comments down below!