You and your boyfriend have been together for awhile. One day you are casually having a conversation where the topic of marriage comes up.
He informs you that he doesn’t want to get married.
You feel like your whole world is falling apart because you’ve always wanted to get married.
So what do you do and why doesn’t he want to get married?
Today we’re going to discuss what it means and what to do if your partner doesn’t want to get married.
My boyfriend doesn’t want to get married | What it means and what to do?
Firstly let’s evaluate the different meanings behind why a guy doesn’t want to get married..
He’s been married before.
I’ve seen this happen a lot where if a guy had a not to great experience in a previous marriage… he was pretty much against doing it again.
He doesn’t want to go through the pain of getting a divorce.
Maybe he’s afraid of getting divorced. Statistics show that almost 50% off marriages end in divorce or separation. The concern of potentially having to pay alimony or thinking you’ll be with someone forever only for things to not workout can be a scary thing to think about.
He hasn’t seen any marriages work out.
Sometimes if you have constantly seen people in horrible relationships.. you may think that marriage is overrated and not all of what people think it is.
He’s scared of legitimate on paper commitment.
Some people just don’t like the idea of being tied to someone in written form. It could be overwhelming to them.
He thinks it’s a waste of time.
Then there are some people that just don’t see a true benefit to marriage. They don’t want to get married because they just don’t want to get married.
What do you do if your boyfriend doesn’t want to get married?
Talk about it.
You definitely should discuss it if it’s something you want. Don’t put your needs or wants on the backburner. Be honest with them and share with them how you feel.
Ask them why they feel the way that they feel about marriage while also sharing that you’ve always dreamed of getting married.
Be honest with yourself.
Don’t change what you want if you know it’s something you’ve always wanted. Never settle.
Really think about if you’d be okay with being someone’s girlfriend for years.
If you have children, are you okay with not being married to the child’s father if you’re in a serious relationship?
If you have come to the realization that you can’t compromise about marriage, then it’d be better to end the relationship.
It maybe hard, but you’d be better off.
You don’t want to be in a situation where you end up resenting the person you’re with because they never attempted to marry you when you already knew that they didn’t want to get married.
If you want to get married and the person you’re dating doesn’t want to get married… it’d be best to end things.
WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO
Don’t assume that you can convince the person to change their mind.
A person will change because they want to change.
I would not support dating someone and waiting for them to realize what a great person you are so that they’ll change their minds to want to marry you.
I have seen that happen to a lot of people where they knew they wanted to get married..
They would date a guy who showed they weren’t trying to marry them and they would date them for years.
Have children with them.. They would be a whole 2 decades into a relationship and not get married.
Don’t hold onto the hope that a person will change their minds.
You’ll just end up wasting your time when you could be dating someone else who has the same relationship goals as you.
Again, never settle.
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