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So this is a constant topic that I see brought up on social media time and time again. Should bills be split in a relationship when you live together? Should relationship be 50/50 financially? Today I’m going to jump into the true answer to this topic.
Splitting the bills: Who should pay the bills in a relationship? | Advice
In the past I would see people saying that the man is supposed to pay all of the bills. I’ve even seen the topic of “I pay all the bills in my marriage” or “I pay all the bills in my relationship” and the feeling of it not being fair.
I would also hear about couples splitting the bills 50/50 where they both pay an equal amount.
Then there’s also the man paying the rent while the woman pays the utilities.
So what’s my honest opinion?

Should a man pay all the bills?
I feel like if a man wants to pay all of the bills he can, but a person shouldn’t assume that he will. Times have changed. The economy is much different from how it used to be. The cost of living is much more expensive. So sometimes women will contribute to paying some of the bills. If a woman would like for a guy to pay all of the bills, that is a topic that needs to be discussed before even moving in with each other. I also have to say that if a guy would like for a woman to pay some of the bills, it also needs to be discussed as well. It really wouldn’t be fair to have someone paying all of the bills if the both of you have a job, but you don’t contribute anything at all to the household financially (even if it’s just buying groceries).
To be honest, I think the only time a man for certain should pay all of the bills is if he has a stay at home wife and she doesn’t have a paying job where she can offer to pay any bills.
How should bills be split in a relationship?
How should bills be split in a marriage?
It really just all depends on your relationship and your jobs. One person could pay the rent while the other person pays the utilities and groceries. You could also just split the bills in half in your relationship if you both are comfortable with doing so.
The topic of who should pay the bills in a relationship depends on the jobs of both, how many individual bills they have (credit cards, hospital bills, student loans, phone bills, etc.), and just the overall communication between both people in the relationship. This isn’t something where you can just assume. You have to have the conversation of what would work best for the both of you. You compromise. Remember that within living with someone you do need to think about each other’s finances and think about what work out best for the both of you. You can’t be selfish about this. You have to think about you guys as a unit and not as roommates based on the finances.
So what are your thoughts?
Who should pay the bills in a relationship?
Let me know by leaving a comment down below!