There have been a many of times when I felt lonely and I wasn’t really sure what to do about it. A lot of times I felt like I’d be a bother to others or like I couldn’t make an effort to change something because I was feeling pretty depressed. Eventually over time I learned some ways in which I could cope with my feelings of loneliness. Today I figured I would share with you guys some things to do when you feel lonely that could help you feel better.
10+ Things to do when you feel lonely
Engage with family and friends you do have.
If there are any people you know that don’t leave you feeling negative, why not reach out to them and see if they feel like talking about something. I know for me I had to learn the hard way that you can’t be around just anyone when you feel lonely. You kind of have to choose wisely who will bring you feelings of positivity versus people who will bring you feelings of negativity or neglect.
Spark random conversations on the internet about things you like.
One of the best things I did when I was feeling lonely was I created a personal Twitter account and followed people who were interested in topics I was interested in. I’ll share with you guys an example..
So I’m a big fan of the anime shows Sailor Moon and My Hero Academia. I typed “Sailor Moon” in the Twitter search bar and I ended up following people who engaged aka (Retweeted and liked) Sailor Moon content (that was popular/trending) that I was interested in. I did this same thing with “My Hero Academia”, “The Flash”, and a few other shows/fandoms I enjoy. I followed maybe 4000+ people on Twitter in total over the course of 3 months. I ended up gaining maybe 1200 new followers at the time, but almost 2-3 years later… I’ve created a community of people interested in similar topics and who I can talk to about a variety of different things. I kind of call these people my distant online acquaintances. Many of them are really nice and I can basically have a variety of conversations with them about various topics.
Involve yourself in a hobby you enjoy or find a new hobby.
Hobbies can make you feel so much better. This is mainly because your mind will be focused on doing something versus it being stagnant where you end up having moments where your mind can wander off towards lonelineness. Some hobbies I threw myself into was putting puzzles together, art (mainly oil pastels and Sharpie art), playing with legos, binge watching 90s anime series, cosplay, Youtube, and playing The Sims.
I recommend trying some of these hobbies out or even finding new ones that you might like yourself.
Binge watch television and join Facebook groups related to those shows.
There is practically a group for every show out there or at least every genre of show. I was hooked on The Vampire Diaries, The Flash, and Game of thrones. (I honestly still am and probably won’t ever get over a lot of things that happened in these shows). You can join and you can easily participate in conversations or even start new conversations in a community that has similar show interests. I know I personally still participate in The Vampire Diaries groups from time to time.
Start a Youtube channel to share and discuss your interests.
I started (and stopped) quite a few Youtube channels. They did help me feel like I had a voice where I could talk about whatever I wanted. I’d recommend making a Youtube channel if it’s something you’ve always wanted to do.
Remember that you are not truly alone.
I don’t know what you believe in, but whether it’s God, the Universe, or some other higher power… just know that something out there is looking out for you and rooting for you. I know for me praying helps from time to time when I actually think about doing it. I’ll just sit down and talk to God outloud. It does seem weird, but it has helped me quite a bit in the past.
Listen to some Feel Good music and dance around.
Music can highly effect your mood. Turn on some upbeat and fun music. This always helps me to feel much better about life overall.
Treat yourself to a pamper day or even a week of pampering.
Get your hair and nails done whether you do it yourself by following a Youtube tutorial at home or pay to have it done at a salon. Wear a face mask. Invest in a back massager. Even take yourself shopping at the mall, online, or even at the thrift store. Buy some cupcakes or cookies from a bakery. Order in some food from Grubhub, Postmates, or Uber Eats. Just overall, do something nice for yourself.
When I was younger and I felt alone, I made it a habit to regularly visit the library to check out books to read. Reading always kept me busy and my mind never strayed because I was too focused on finishing the books I was interested in.
Play co-op video games online.
Play fun games on your PS4, Xbox, or PC with other people. Again, you can join Reddit groups and Facebook groups to discuss different topics related to the games you are playing.
Join or start a club.
If you have a club idea in mind, you can go on the search for one online within your community or you can start an online club.
Meditating can calm your mind and help you to feel centered. You could just play some soothing music in the background and take time out to breathe and focus on positive thoughts.
I have a love hate relationship with working out because I’m lazy, but I’ve noticed that whenever I workout… I do feel in a better mood overall. I’m not as focused on loneliness or negativity. Exercising in general can cause your brain to transform in a way. If you’re upset about something, it’ll help you to release stress and negative emotions. So I definitely recommend it for the moments where you feel lonely.
So those were my ideas of things to do when you feel lonely. I know sometimes it’s difficult and you may feel overwhelmed, but the feeling won’t last forever. Doing things that I actually enjoyed always helped me. So I would recommend at the end of the day to do something for you that is positive and makes you feel happy. You’d be surprised by the results.
I hope you all enjoyed this and I hope it helps you if you’re feeling down.
Stay blessed you guys and keep staying positive!